Bad marriages usually don't start that way. At the beginning you admire each other, love each other, and will do whatever it takes to help each other. But down the road things change. Sometimes the relationship erodes quickly; sometimes it decays slowly, almost imperceptibly. At some point you wake up one morning and wonder what is this doing to me?
The answer is that a cost of being in a bad marriage is emotional and physical. The emotional consequences of a bad marriage are well documented and include resentment, isolation, anger, depression, and anxiety.
But as if these problems weren't enough researchers have recently been finding that you pay a price with your health as well. Past studies demonstrated that people who are married were less likely to have surgery and to die from strokes, pneumonia, or accidents. But recently there's been mounting evidence that people who are in strange and unhappy marriages seem to do less well from a medical perspective.
This seems to be truer for women than in men. A study from 2007 found that those who had the most problems in their close relationships were 34 percent more likely to have heart attacks or other heart complications than those who had reported feeling very positive about their close relationships. In addition studies have found that stress in a marriage has been associated with ulcers.
A serious problem for women in marriage comes from bottling up feelings. One study found that women who didn't speak their minds during fights with their spouses were more than four times as likely to die during the 10 year study period as women who always told their husbands how they felt.
There's evidence that sometimes a bad marriage can be worse than none at all. A study from 2008 found that heart patients who are more negative with their partners were nearly twice as likely to die within four years as those who were less negative.
What does this mean for you? It means that it's more important than ever for things to change in your marriage! Find ways to revive your marriage before your health and your emotions pay the price.
The answer is that a cost of being in a bad marriage is emotional and physical. The emotional consequences of a bad marriage are well documented and include resentment, isolation, anger, depression, and anxiety.
But as if these problems weren't enough researchers have recently been finding that you pay a price with your health as well. Past studies demonstrated that people who are married were less likely to have surgery and to die from strokes, pneumonia, or accidents. But recently there's been mounting evidence that people who are in strange and unhappy marriages seem to do less well from a medical perspective.
This seems to be truer for women than in men. A study from 2007 found that those who had the most problems in their close relationships were 34 percent more likely to have heart attacks or other heart complications than those who had reported feeling very positive about their close relationships. In addition studies have found that stress in a marriage has been associated with ulcers.
A serious problem for women in marriage comes from bottling up feelings. One study found that women who didn't speak their minds during fights with their spouses were more than four times as likely to die during the 10 year study period as women who always told their husbands how they felt.
There's evidence that sometimes a bad marriage can be worse than none at all. A study from 2008 found that heart patients who are more negative with their partners were nearly twice as likely to die within four years as those who were less negative.
What does this mean for you? It means that it's more important than ever for things to change in your marriage! Find ways to revive your marriage before your health and your emotions pay the price.
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