What is Love Really?

Let me begin by saying right away that love is not an emotion. When it is merely an emotion or some warm fuzzy feeling that you have, you cheapen the true beauty of love. When love is an emotion, it is then dependent upon the other person as well as your current state of mind. Therefore, it would be a changeling, altering itself to fit the mood or the actions of the person we claim we love. It becomes an animal that purrs when stroked and hisses when cornered. If that is love, we have problems.

Then there is the fact that we tend to fight the most with people we love, and the people we love also tend to hurt us the most. We get hurt and we fall out of love as a result. If you fell out of love, was your love ever true to begin with? Marriages fall apart because someone doesn't feel love anymore. Relationships become bankrupt because someone doesn't feel the love. This is a tragedy.

SO WHAT IS LOVE

There have been oodles and oodles of definitions written about love. Take the average quote book and you'll find pages and pages of definitions. Go to the local bookstore and you'll find a plethora of books on the subject. And you'll find good in all of them. But love has to be more than a feeling, more than a state of being that is dependent on outside stimuli.

Love is more action than feeling. Feelings aren't wrong, but they are deceptive. This is why following your heart is such a dangerous philosophy. If everyone did that, we would have anarchy. Feelings flip-flop so rapidly sometimes that if we followed them, we would alternately love and murder the same person all within the space of a few minutes. So love is more of an action than a feeling.

As a Christian we see this in the well known Biblical verse, "For God so loved the world that He had a warm and fuzzy feeling." Is that what it says? No, it says, "For God so loved the world that He gave..." God's love is manifested in an action, not a feeling.

You love your children even when you are angry at them, don't you? So your love for your children is not predicated upon an emotion. Thus love is more of an action.

LOVE IS STILL MORE THAN THAT

It's still more than an action. Your ability to love is actually a reflection of your own heart, not the object of your love. Love comes from within, not earned. You love someone based on who you are, not on who they are.

If someone admits that he doesn't love anymore, then I must question his heart. Either there is something wrong with him, or he never really loved to begin with.

It's like that ol' Quaker who was looking at his enemy down the sites of his double barrel shotgun. He said, "Sir, I would not fain do thee harm in any way, nor would I wish thee ill, but sir, thou art standing where I am about to shoot." Your love should be kinda like that. People just ought to be standing where you are about to love.

If a person must be worthy of your love, your love is shallow and small. If someone must earn your love, your love is probably not really love and it'll go as readily as it came.

Your Girlfriend - Signs That She is Falling in Love With You - How to Know If a Woman Loves a Man

If you consider the following clues (which are strong and very important), you won't go wrong in your conclusion over her feelings for you! Be honest with yourself, though!

At the beginning, even before you 2 start dating, you will catch her eyes following you. No matter how mature a woman is - and no matter how much she'll be trying to fight it, she won't be able to stop looking at you. She will try and hide it (I used to hide it with sunglasses!) but she won't be able to. So, the secret is to 'catch' her looking at you; if you do, she'll probably just look away (but then she'll look at you again, guaranteed!). We just love looking at what we really like! We find it irresistible!

She will also touch her hair or neck a lot when she's looking at you or when she's thinking of you. If this happens there's a lot of sexual energy between you 2! (at least from her towards you!) - read more on these unequivocal clues further on!

When you are in 'talking terms', or when you are dating, she'll listen to whatever you say and will remember it next time! It's funny how our memories are enhanced when we hear things from a source we really like! She will laugh at your jokes (no matter how banal they are, so it does not matter how funny they are at all, don't worry!) or she'll giggle and/or smile a lot around you. Even if she's a mature woman, she will act more 'girlish' then with other people, more 'alive' too.

When you two are dating:

1 - she will be affectionate with you in public (although a small number of women do not display affection as well as many)

2 - she seems to be happy around you and/or talking to you all the time, especially at the very beginning (it's just hormones, but it can't be hidden!)

3 - she shows empathy towards you (although this can also take place if you 2 are very good friends - however, empathy is a key sign that she truly cares about you). So, if you are sad, she'll be 'there' for you, for example, and if she is truly into you she'll be there for you more than a regular friend would be.

4 - she will want to spend as much time with you as she can, so she will mention what you 2 can do together next time or be available when you propose a gathering. Even if she is truly busy at a particular time, she'll say 'I'm busy that time but I am free on....). Some women may still play hard to get so they will expect you to make all the moves (which is ridiculous, I know!), so look at all the signs as an overall picture.

How Do You Get Your Guy to Love You Even More? Creating an Emotional Connection Fast

Have you ever found a guy that you just seem to hit it off with so well that you find yourself wondering how you can get him to love you even more? Most women have experienced that dilemma at least once in their lives, and found themselves trying to create an emotional connection as rapidly as possible. Unfortunately, most attempts to get a guy to love you more usually end in disaster. The man either ends up feeling trapped, smothered, or confused, because women seldom take the time to examine how their efforts are perceived by the men in their lives.

Still, you can create an emotional connection fast and get your guy to love you even more than he already does if you understand how men think. The first thing to understand is that men really do have a need to be the hunter in any relationship. Perhaps it is an instinct born of common ancestral memory, but almost all men need to believe that they have at least some control over the relationship. They want to be in pursuit of their chosen woman! Overt attempts to create an emotional connection fail precisely because they turn that need on its head and make the man feel as though he has gone from hunter to prey.

Because of that, the easiest way to create an emotional connection fast without threatening your man's ego and natural instincts is to allow him to play that hunter role. Does that mean you have to sit back and hope and pray that he will pursue you? Absolutely not! The key rests in something women of past generations understood all too well, but which modern women seem to have forgotten: play hard to get, but not so well that the guy gives up. Finding the right balance between being interested and being obsessed is not an easy thing to do, but it will help you to create an emotional connection with the man you desire.

Another really important tip is to avoid competing with your man. Too many women make the mistake of trying to "one-up" the man they are with because they are too focused on all that they have been taught about men and women being "the same". It's a lie! The fact is that men and women are not the same - they are equal. Men don't want a woman who is exactly like them - they usually have more than their share of male friends who fit that bill.

To create an emotional connection between you and your man, it is important that you strive to complement his role in the relationship, rather than struggle with him for power or control. Most women who are in successful relationships know that to get your guy to love you even more, it is important to strike the right balance between friend, lover, and confidant. If you can accomplish that task, you will be well on your way to creating an emotional connection that lasts.

How to Stay in Love - The Secrets to Earning Your Man's Love For a Lifetime

Have you fallen in love and hope to stay there? Do you ever wonder if it is possible to love someone for a lifetime? Are you searching for the secret to make your romance last? True love is not a myth! Plenty of couples who fall in love as doe-eyed kids are still just as crazy for each other fifty years down the road. This article reveals the secrets to falling in love and staying in love for the long haul.

Be his buddy
Chances are your special guy has a group of pals that mean the world to him. You might be thinking that he probably doesn't need any more friends. But you'd be wrong! While you may prize romance above all else, your guy highly values companionship. Though the secret to your heart may be chocolates and roses, the best way to woo him is probably more along the lines of pizza and a sports game. When your man sees that he can depend on you for more than date night, he won't be able to help but fall in love.

Be his cheerleader
Many women make the mistake of trying to fix or improve their man. In the spirit of helpfulness, you may be quick to point when your guy has messed up the directions or mismatched an outfit. Although you may see your words as thoughtful, your guy is likely to interpret your well-meant advice as criticism. Instead of correcting your man, work on cheering him. Focus on his successes, support his goals, and nurture his interests. When your man feels valued by you he will feel happy and at ease in your presence.

Be his fantasy
Although you might be ready to invite him up to your place for some after dinner playtime, rushing into intimacy might work against you. Men are driven crazy by that which they can't have. Making him wait for sex will intensify his desire for you while also teaching him to respect you as more than just a playmate. Allow him to fantasize about what it would be like to be intimate with you and you will heighten the ultimate pleasure.

Finding love is one thing but making it last is another! Yet, as long as you remember these simple secrets, you are sure to make your dream man fall in love and stay there!

How to Make Your Man Fall For You - 5 Tips That Will Change Your Love Life

Is there a special someone in your life that you wish you could make fall for you? Are you sick of giving your heart away and receiving nothing in return? Have you been looking for love and coming up short? If so, don't worry! It's normal to feel overwhelmed by the dating game, especially when it seems that the rules are always changing. If you're ready to play the dating game to win, then read on for 5 dating tips that will change your love life and teach you how to make any man fall for you.

1. Let him lead
Have you ever experienced amazing chemistry with a man that fizzled as soon as you came on a little too strong? Many women meet Mr. Right and charge at him like a football player. If you have your eye on someone new, let him have a little fun chasing you. Allow him to lead and you'll be the one returning his missed call.

2. Pat him on the back
Don't be shy about letting him know that you appreciate his good qualities. Take the time to understand the things that are important to him and throw a compliment or two his way when you see him excelling at something. Show him that you like him for who he really is and he will feel safe and confident in your presence.

3. Keep it light
Save those intense discussion about your ex-boyfriends or your current family drama for later down the line. Maximize the blissful beginning and keep your time together lighthearted and fun. While your ideal man will be supportive of you through good times and bad, it is crucial that you develop a strong bond before you unveil the skeletons in your closet. Knowing how to make him laugh is a key ingredient in making him fall for you.

4. Don't lose sight of you
Finding a potential partner is no excuse to stop building the relationship you have with yourself. Keep investing in the things that fill your time when you're single. Spend time with your gal pals, reserve moments in your day to pamper yourself, and don't be afraid to say No to a date from time to time. Maintaining a healthy friendship with yourself will demonstrate to him that you are independent and self-sufficient.

5. Move at his pace
Although things between you and your sweetie may be smooth as silk, avoid the urge to start buying bridal magazines and picking out baby names. Men are often most afraid that women will push them too quickly into a decision they are not ready to make. If you show him that you respect his timing he is more likely to speed up his pace without even realizing it!

Falling in love is certainly not a math equation. Nevertheless, if you apply this simple formula, you won't have to wait long before you make that special guy in your life fall for you.

The Seven Types of Love

Love is a rubber-hits-the-road type of thing. People tell each other they love each other all the time but we know when they really mean it by what they do. Love's a verb; a doing word. Analysed, says psychologist Robert J. Sternberg, love is effectively partitioned (or shown) in three ways: intimacy, passion and (decision and) commitment. He describes eight ways of love (one of which is non-love). It's the Sternberg triangular theory of love (1986).

1. Liking Love - simply involves intimacy: confiding in another, sharing feelings etc. It is closeness to, and the liking of, another person. All good friendships involve this type of love.

2. Infatuated Love - simply involves only passion: it is erotic attraction; feeling 'in love,' intense longing and arousal. It's the concentrated yearning for union with another person.

3. Empty Love - involves only commitment: the intention to remain in relationship. Many older style marriages existed in this way. People these days generally want more. They perhaps saw parents and grandparents "exist" in this way and they won't have a bar of it.

4. Romantic Love - involves both intimacy and passion and is perhaps the most "lovey" type of love. Intimacy and passion carry a couple through this stage very easily without the need of commitment (which is needed a little later). It describes what we feel in the first six or twelve months of most romances (before the gloss wears off and the harder work begins, necessitating commitment).

5. Companionate Love - has everything bar passion. This probably describes most healthy marriages ninety percent of the time (with just a smattering of healthy passion added to taste!). Necessarily, healthy marriages are going to share a good component of friendship (liking love) with the added component of decision and commitment for the long haul.

6. Fatuous Love - full of passion and commitment. An exciting, fiery love is this one. Probably describes some vibrant longer term relationships. It is hard to see, however, where good relationships go without some level of intimacy, which comes from and produces trust-probably the most important ingredient in any sustainable relationship.

7. Consummate Love - the best marriages have a blend of all three: intimacy, passion and commitment. There is no unhealthy absence of balance here. Consummate love is the type of love married people should strive for with their partners.

But, love is so much broader than marital love by simple virtue that it exists in all relationships, even the macho ones i.e. non-love or empty love. Family and working relationships demonstrate this. Love is necessary everywhere.

The triangular theory of love also describes the situational "placement" of love. Intimacy, passion and commitment are required in different portions depending on the needs of the time. This is something that should always be remembered.

Make Any Man Fall in Love - Learn the Hidden Secrets

Are you like most females and find it almost impossible to make any man fall in love with you? Times have changed and so why is it no longer proper for women to attract men in the old fashion way? Are you like most females and are willing to do what ever is necessary to attract the man of your dreams? Follow these suggestions to make any man fall in love with you as you learn the hidden secrets.

A lot has changed in the past few decades and some of those things are not necessarily for the better. Times sure where different when your parents were courting, because things were so much more simpler then. Nowadays, everyone has changed because society has changed as a whole, whether they feel if it is acceptable or not.

No longer are you able to stand completely out away from the crowd, but you have become part of the crowd, which makes it so much harder for that special man to notice you. Now you have to really work to get that special man notice you or even to make that all important first impression on him. This first impression can make any man fall in love with you, but you have to work for it.

In past decades this was accomplished pretty easily, because men knew what you liked and had no problem noticing you, but no longer. With the growing and changing times, this process has become extremely difficult to accomplish. Today, it seems as if men are not only looking for women that will make them a good housewife, but a good companion in life as well.

Yes, men have learn to have many more expectations out of women, which might be due to equal rights some feel, but is that a bad thing? Learn why other people like you so that you can use these qualities to get that special man to notice you. Remember, you have got to love yourself before anyone else can love you.

You also need to try to figure out what that special man in your life wants out of woman. Learn what it is that really makes him tick, but most of all try to figure out why he acts the way he acts sometimes, which is not going to easy. Oftentimes, women feel that men should come with some type of manual so that we can understand them better, but since they do not we have have figure them out alone.

Figuring men out can be extremely confusing at times, but if you will pay close attention to that special man in your life, then you will see that he is trying to show you want he wants and needs. The main problem is that the majority of women are not that good at reading some of these strange signals that many men give them.

Oftentimes, these signals are overlooked simply because women do not know what they should look for from that special man in their life. Think about how life is today and where you would like to see yourself in the future, while at the same time including that special man in your life.

This man might not be your one true love, but he is out there some where, and all you have to do is learn how to read those signals he is giving you. By no means will changing your life be easy, but learning to read the signs that your special man gives you will help your relationships, especially if you want to make any man fall in love with you, then you have to learn his hidden secrets.

Could This Be True Love? - Reading His Cryptic Messages

Do you feel you could really be onto something with this guy and you can't wait to find out if this is true love or not? Are you afraid this could turn out to be a one sided love affair? Have you been trying to figure out how he feels about you, but he's just too vague? Men let slip certain little telltale signs regarding their feelings. Here's what to look out for.

Whether the guy is very outgoing, shy, fearful or brash, he'll give off some sign of interest in you. Sometimes it can be as fragile as the gleam in his eye when he looks at you, or it can be in the little ways he pays attention to your needs. Even the shyest guy will want to ensure that you feel special when you're around him. He'll tell you how pretty you are and will make subtle attempts at romance.

The hardest to read are guys who've been hurt. They may be reluctant to open their hearts again and trust. They may deny to themselves and to you the growing love they feel. If you believe this could be the case with your man, give him time and space, all while looking for those tiny signs of love. Even if he is fearful, he will show a reluctant desire to be with you more and more.

While some guys can be very difficult to read, it's a pretty safe bet that if the guy is only planning to do things he likes, he doesn't care too much about you or your feelings. Give him one final test by asking him to an outing you're really excited about (give the guy a chance and avoid things like the ballet, opera or museum if you know he's not into that at all) and if he still refuses, he may just be too selfish to love someone else.

Men can get downright obsessively protective of the woman they love. A man will want to do things to show he wants to take care of you. If you present your man with a problem and he shrugs and talks of something else, that's not a great sign. At the very least he should show concern, a degree of support, a possible solution to your problem, or a helping hand to resolve the situation.

Of course the ultimate sign of affection is a promise of commitment. Be fair and give the guy ample time to come to the realization that dating you has become something far bigger and more intense than he may have anticipated. However, if months have passed and he doesn't mention or make the slightest move towards an exclusive relationship, this is a guy who has no intention of settling down.

If you give him the time he needs and continue to be the loving woman you've been all along, he'll make his love for you loud and clear.

How to Show Him You Love Him - Do the Things He Needs You to Do

Do you know how to show him you love him? Are you aware of the things that he needs you to do that will make him feel loved? Do you know that you can scare him away if you do the wrong things? Are you ready for the perfect start to your relationship? Men are much more complicated then women when it comes to love. They need it, want it, and even want to know that it is there. However, they can't be told or shown directly because it scares them. Therefore you need to make sure that you use the things that he needs you to do to show him you love him to avoid scaring him away.

1. Spend time with him.
He needs you to spend time with him. He needs you to have fun with him. He needs you to show him a good time. To do this go to a lot of different places and have fun! You should also have him teach you about his interests and show him yours. This will let you get to know each other while having some fun.

2. Live your life.
One thing that is common among women is to drop everything and live their lives for their man. This causes a lot of different issues. You want to make sure that you live your own life. This will give you time apart and that time will make him more comfortable and it will also give him a time to miss you and decide he wants more of you in his life.

3. Take it easy.
It is easy to fall in love as a woman. This often makes the woman want to move quickly. This makes them want to go at it and make a man love them back. It can make him feel pressured or pushed. You don't want him to feel either so you should take it easy. Let him lead the pace of the relationship and avoid pushing him or moving too quickly.

4. Avoid going overboard.
Women love it when men are totally into them. They feel special and cherished. However, when a woman is completely into a man it makes that man feel scared. He thinks she might be too needy or too desperate. He might even consider leaving. If you want to show him you love him then you want to avoid going overboard in your affection and how into him you are.

All it takes to show him you love him are these four things. These are things that he really needs you to do and they are easy. Have fun, but always remember to live your life. Keep up on your own things. You should take things easy and let it go at a slow pace. Finally you don't want to get too emotional or to affectionate. Instead avoid going overboard. A lot of these things can be done by letting him lead! You can show him how you feel though!

Love and Relationship Questions For Couples

Asking questions to your significant other can seem a bit silly and a bit daunting. If you are already in love, shouldn't you already know them? At the same time, isn't it a little scary to see what they would answer about their past?

Asking the right questions is an important part of maintaining a successful relationship. Many marriage counselors stress the necessity of positive communication as part of handling arguments and as a way to get to know better your significant other. It can seem silly to ask straight forward questions that otherwise might never come up in a conversation, but it is an important part of building a strong relationship.

Many couples may not know the abusive or criminal background of their partners. Many may wonder why religion and church do not play a factor in their lives. Yet others loose themselves in the routine of relationships and forget their interests and passions that asking questions can bring out. Still, others wonder about each other's past and what the future holds for them as a couple.

It is silly to ask questions like what is your favorite food? Where is your favorite hiding place? But asking questions that relate to personal health, fears, emotional backgrounds, family, priorities, and love is a crucial step into finding out more about your significant other. Face it, many couples are happy with having the same favorite foods, TV shows, and friends. Yet many fail to understand that sharing common interests does not result in a successful long term relationship. Knowing what differences you have, beliefs, priorities, and desires is something that is not talked about on a day to day basis.

Ask each other, what about growing up is scary for you? What is the one thing you admire about your parents and our children? What is your favorite body part? When are you most confident? What kind of person should our children date?

Subjects that are not usually talked about in daily conversations, or subjects that have been in your mind are great topics for discussion. Remember, a successful relationship revolves around communication. Sharing and showing affection are all part of being a couple, but knowing your significant other better than anyone else in this world is what separates soul mates from routine relationships.

Ask each your significant other any questions that have been on your mind about their past, present, and future. Remember that both of you should understand that communication is a key part of staying in a healthy relationship. Then ask them to ask you. Remember, growing old together involves honesty and respect.

Loving With Ease

Loving with ease means to love unconditionally. What is unconditional love, and what does it mean to you? Unconditional love means loving without condition meaning you let the person become what he wants to be by allowing him to do the things that will make him happy, respecting his choices, and accepting his flaws. This sounds rather difficult or maybe unfair because you expect to be loved the way you love the other person but putting restrictions to your relationship is not going to make you happy either because your partner is not your property and this may put a strain in your relationship or this will show that you don't trust him enough.

The reason why many people have trust issues with their current relationships is because of the emotional baggage they carry from relationships to relationships but you must remember that your partner now has nothing to do with your previous relationships so punishing him is unfair on his part. Besides, whatever bad experience you had is all in the past and unless he gives you a reason to be insecure with your relationship now, then you should resolve this issue right away. Bear in mind, that no matter how many failed relationships you have in the past, you can start over and over again until you make it right because you deserve another chance to make your relationships work and be happy. And if you are able to develop that particular mindset then you will be able to improve your circumstance by being the right person for the relationship and attract more of these to your reality.

If you were to love unconditionally, you should never expect your partner to live up to your expectation because the moment you do that, you are trying to change the way you want to be loved that's why if your partner do what he wants you take it against yourself that sometimes it even leads you to conclude that he loves you less. Truth is, allowing him to enjoy outside of your relationship will make him grow as a person and you send him a message that you trust him. Note that by doing so, you will also make him realize how much he loves you as he will notice the difference between the kind of happiness he feels when he is with friends and when he is with you. That will then make him determine what is more important. Do not fear because love will always bring him home to you. Lay some ground rules and respecting these rules on your relationship will make you both more committed to each other. Be aware that rules are not restrictions. It's just a basis of what you are allowed and not allowed to do. Both of you should understand your responsibility and limitations for harmonious relationship.

If You Want to Make Him Truly Love You - Avoid Committing These Three Relationship Killers!

Do you want to make him truly love you? Do you want your relationship to last for a long time, if not forever? Are you afraid of doing something that will ruin your relationship? There are some things that most men can't tolerate. So if you want to make him truly love you and keep him in that happy state, you'll want to avoid these three relationship killers

Too Much of a Good Thing is Too Much

If you act as if he's the center of your universe, or worse, if you act like he is your universe, you run the risk of scaring him off and fast!

You may have a favorite food but if that's the only thing available for you to eat, of it that's the only thing you saw on every menu, you'd quickly get tired of it.

Relationships are like that too. If you're too available, too needy, or too clingy, you're going to make him want to leave in a big hurry.

Be affectionate with limits. Show him that you care but don't overwhelm him. Keep a little distance. Have an air of mystery. Make him want to see you rather than being in his face every time he turns around or answers his phone.

Calling him 20 times a day isn't showing him you care, it's stalking. Remember, when your name pops up on his caller I.D., you want him to smile not grimace.

Don't be the Weed, be the Flower

Relationships take time. Guys may fall in lust quickly, but it takes time for them to fall deeply and completely in love. Don't rush your relationship. Like flowering plants, love grows slowly over time with patience, nourishment and care. Weeds, on the other hand, grow wildly out of control and choke out the flowers. And what do you do with weeds? You pull them out and throw them away. Don't be a weed and rush the growing process or you may soon find yourself in the trash. Be like that beautiful flower that grows and flourishes with time, care and love.

You'll Lose the Race if He Doesn't Set the Pace

Yes, you may have quickly fallen head over heels but it's going to likely time to make him truly love you. Relationship building is a marathon, not a race. Let him set the pace.

Don't be the first one to say "I love you." Don't try to get him involved with every single activity in your life. Don't force him into situations he's not ready to handle or have conversations about your future together that he didn't initiate.

Be the prize that he has to compete for to win and he'll value you all the more. But if you force him to run faster to make him love you than he's comfortable doing, he'll get tired and you'll make him want to leave the race long before the finish line.

How Do You Know If Your Husband Loves You - Signs He's Still Crazy About You

How do you know if your husband loves you? That's one of the most often asked questions by married women. Once the honeymoon phase has passed and real life sets in it's sometimes hard to tell what your spouse is feeling. Men are notorious for keeping their feelings to themselves and this makes it particularly challenging to the women who love them. If you've begun to have doubts about how much your spouse really does care for you, there's help. There are some telltale signs in his behavior that indicate that your man loves you today just as much as he did on the day you two married.

One of the signs your husband still loves you is his desire to help make your life easier. Does he still offer to help with the dishes? Is he eager to play with the children so you can have a bit of time to unwind and relax? If your husband obviously wants to ensure that your life is pleasant and non-eventful, he's still very much in love with you. If you've felt for the past few months or years that he's neglectful of your needs, he may feel some emotional distance between the two of you.

Another indicator that the man you are married to still adores you is he'll reach out to touch you. If he reaches for your hand when you two are out or if he rubs your shoulders when you're feeling tense, that's a strong sign he's still in love. When a man pulls away physically from his wife to the point that there's no intimacy in the marriage, that's a red flag that the relationship is starting to unravel. If this is happening in your relationship and you ignore it you can expect to be facing a divorce down the road.

You can also feel reassured that your husband is wild about you if he remembers important dates. Many people will tell you that this isn't significant but it really is. Consider how well he was at recalling your birthday and anniversary when you two first married. If that's changed, his feelings may have changed too. However, if he's attentive to important dates and ensures that you have a gift or even just a card in your hands on those days, he's still in love with you.

How to Win a Capricorn Man - Ways to Capture and Keep His Heart

The question of how to win a Capricorn man is one that many women wish they had an answer to. It's easy to understand why that is. Capricorn men are confident, self controlled and driven towards success. They are fiercely loyal when they do fall in love and because they are realists you know that you're not going to spend your life with a man who is living with his head in the clouds. Winning the heart of a man born under this sign isn't the easiest task. Once a woman has a thorough understanding of what this type of man finds irresistible, she can ensure she becomes the woman of his dreams.

Learning how to win a Capricorn man begins with recognizing that patience is the key. Men born during late December through mid-January are not the type to fall in love at first sight. They pace themselves when it comes to love and won't hand their heart over to a woman unless they're certain she'll take good care of it. Don't pressure a man like this into any type of commitment, be it big or small. Allow him to set the tone of the relationship and follow his lead.

Supporting him and his dreams and goals is essential if you want to attract a Capricorn man. Don't belittle what he wants to do with his life even if you don't think it's something he should be pursuing. Men like this are notorious for being very successful, sometimes at out of the box careers. You also need to ensure that he knows each day how much you appreciate and value him as a part of your life. It's important that he really feels that if you want him to fall deeply in love with you as well.

Last but not least is to always be mindful of the fact that Capricorn men place a very high value on their families. This not only includes their future wife and children, but their current family members as well. Be respectful of his parents and siblings. Be prepared to spend time with them as he'll want to. You can lose his interest very quickly if you don't appreciate and recognize how much those closest to him mean to him. Never allow yourself to be jealous of his love for his family as this can cost you any future with him that you may have had.

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Telltale Signs a Guy is Falling For You - Insight Into Your Man's Heart

Are you currently in a relationship and the man you're with isn't very forthcoming with what he's feeling? If that sounds like your present situation, you're certainly not alone. This is one of those predicaments many women face. They know in their own heart that they're crazy about their man but they really can't tell what he's feeling. There are some signs a guy is falling for you that will give you amazing insight into what's going on in his heart. If you recognize any of these in your own relationship you can rest assured that your man is feeling very connected emotionally to you.

Three telltale signs a guy is falling for you are:

He wants to spend as much time with you as possible. This sounds simple enough but surprisingly many women don't actually understand what it means. If the man you're with is the one who initiates seeing you and if he presses you for more and more time together, he's hooked. On the other hand, if your boyfriend waits for you to suggest a get together or if he's got an entire list of excuses lined up, he's really not that into you. The difference here is that a man in love is the one wanting to spend time, whereas a man who isn't in love waits for you to suggest it. It's subtle but important.

He is more interested in you than in himself. By nature most men are selfish. They would much rather talk about themselves than anyone else, including the woman they're dating. However, once a man falls in love his new favorite obsession is the woman he adores. Think back to the last dinner conversation you had with your guy. Did he ask about you or was he content going on and on about himself and his day? If it was the latter, he's not falling for you. He's still too crazy about himself.

He talks about the future and includes you. When a guy is falling for a woman he starts to picture their future together. He imagines what it will be like to spend the summer together, to attend his winter holiday party as a couple and he may even start planning their vacation for the following year. If your man always includes you when he talks about things in the future he's looking forward to, he's already in love with you. Take this as an extremely positive sign.

Get Him to Love You - The Things You Need to Do So He Won't Leave You

Do you want to get him to love you? Are you tired of feeling as though you might make him leave you? Are you wanting more from your relationship, but just aren't sure how to get there? When it comes to making a man fall in love with you there are a few things that you need to know. You want to make sure you do the things that get him to love you and avoid the things that will make him leave you.

1. Start with you.
Many women want to get started changing the man in their lives to make sure that their relationship goes in the direction that they want it to. However, you really need to get started with you. You will have to make changes in yourself to be the best you can be before you get him to love you.

• You need to be a positive person. This is something that will help you as well as him and it will give your relationship a lot of advantages.
• You also need to work at being a confident person. This too will give your relationship a lot more. You will find that you give more to your relationship and that you are able to relax more in your relationship.

2. Stop worrying.
Many women worry. They worry about their relationship and about the men that they are seeing. It is important that you stop worrying. When you worry you are bringing negative emotions and feelings into your relationship. You are also likely to bother him with your worry and if you are worrying about him then you are certain to be on his tail which is likely to bother him.

3. Give him his space.
Women are close bodied creatures. After all, the image of women going to the bathroom together which is portrayed in movies is often a very real thing. Men on the other hand are solitary creatures who find it a lot easier to handle things alone. This can cause problems. However, if you give him the space that he needs you will find that it is easier for him to relax and he is much more likely to enjoy himself while in your presence. Give him the space he needs often. Be willing to give it to him when you want to spend time with him the most. Give it to him when things are bothering him. Let him know you are there should he need or want you and then give him the space that he longs for. If you can do this you are sure to get him to love you.

These three things are important in your relationship. They will make it so that he wants to stay rather than leave. Just remember that you want to treat him in a way that doesn't drive him away. When you do that you will get him to love you and you will grow a deeper relationship.

The Easy Path to Earn Any Man's Love

Earning a man's love; what does it take? Is there a step by step plan to follow to make love happen? Are there secrets that every woman should know? Actually, there are a few tried and true suggestions that will work on any man worth having and will earn you his love. You should keep reading.

Take note that we stated any man worth having. We're talking about a man that will treat you with love and compassion and will make you his number one priority. If this is the type of man you're looking for, then these ideas will work for you.

Start as friends.

Romantic relationships blossom beautifully from friendship. You can probably name more friendships that have endured over the years than romances. Why? Because friends learn about one another and overlook those things which they might not see eye to eye on. Friends are always there for each other even when they disagree. Friends seem to accept each other just as they are and appreciate each other's differences and individuality. This sounds like it could be a wonderful romantic relationship, doesn't it?

Be satisfied with the woman that you are.

Find contentment in being yourself and appreciate that you can be just fine as a single woman. Fill your life with people and activities that you love and make the most of each day. Haven't you noticed that the most desirable women are the ones who aren't looking for anybody or anything? The contentment that they feel comes from the satisfaction in knowing that they are the best they can be. Love yourself and you will earn his love also.

Wear your confidence.

Make yourself the best that you can be and flaunt it. Confidence and self-assurance are two alluring qualities and will draw attention from any man. Believe in yourself and all that you have to offer and others will believe also. One sure way to earn a man's love is to let him see that you feel good about yourself; he'll feel great about you too.

Make Him Feel Your Love - Here is the Right Way to Do It

Do you want to make your man feel your love? Do most men like being shown how much you love them? If you are completely open with your affection, will they sometimes shy away? It helps to have some guidelines when you are trying to make your man feel how much you truly love him.

It is a fact that men seek true love and devotion just as much as women do; however, it is also a fact that they are less demonstrative with their affection. Yes, they desperately want to know how much you love them, but they prefer to keep the displays private and to a lesser degree.

Because of this, if you truly love him, don't go overboard with showing it. Too much affection makes most men feel uncomfortable and they often might question whether your actions are completely sincere or slightly contrived. Take his feelings into consideration and find subtle ways to make him feel your love, even if all you want to do is shout it from the rooftops.

Next, let him decide how quickly your relationship progresses. Men need to feel in control of their emotions and ultimately in control of the deepening emotional connection between the two of you. Although guys move slower toward these serious feelings, they will get there as long as they are not coerced or pressured into moving quicker. Follow his signs, such as how often he calls or how much he reveals his feelings, and reciprocate at the same level.

Last, and so very important, you must give him the chance to say "I love you" first. He needs to feel secure in knowing that it is his choice to have fallen in love with you. He has planned and worked at romancing you and trying to win your heart, so he wants to be the one to step up and claim his prize. Don't deny him that satisfaction. Once he declares his love, you can certainly profess yours and feel more open in making him feel how much you truly love him. Use these suggestions and you will win his heart and his devotion for good.

What Makes a Man Fall in Love? - You Need to Know

Do you have no idea how to make a man fall in love with you? Have you been close, thought you'd almost won his heart, only to be unceremoniously dumped? Would you have more success if you only knew the tricks into a man's heart? You bet. Men may think a bit differently than women, but don't fear these differences, embrace them.

Some say that men are eternal boys; always on the look out for fun, mischief and adventure. Tap into this need and be the one he has the most fun with. This doesn't have to include sex. In fact, you should exclude it entirely for the first little while. How else is he going to get to see just how great it is being around you?

Plan to have dates that allow him to explore every side of you. Be open and try outings that he suggests, even if it's not your usual thing. In turn, mention the things you love to do and invite him to discover some of them. Not only will he discover something new, but it'll give him a different perspective of you. Perhaps he never thought you capable of such a thing. It'll be one more thing he can admire about you.

Men want someone they can have fun with, but they also want someone they can just be with. Your time together alone should feel comfortable and right, even when you're not doing anything in particular. This can take a little while and a few nail-biting dates, but once you know each other a bit, do your best to make him feel at ease around you.

Be a good listener, be supportive and let him feel he can come to you with his problems. Don't give yourself a headache trying to solve his problems. Just knowing he can open up and share with you will be more than enough to make him appreciate you.

So now that you're on the right road and everything is looking great, should you bring up the topic of a wedding? Most certainly, No! All your actions until now should point to the fact that you are looking for something real. He should be slowly realizing that you're not just some fly by night. Give him time to digest everything that's been going on.

If you're lucky enough to meet a guy who is also in a rush to settle down, he'll come straight out and tell you when the time is right. But if you've met the guy who hadn't really expected to settle down yet, and you come along and turn his heart upside down, he may still logically resist the idea of a commitment. Not that he doesn't want to commit, just that he needs time within himself to get used to the idea. Pressure from you is not going to help.

With pressure on his shoulders, all of a sudden your dates aren't fun anymore. They're weighed down by your needs and this can be difficult, if not frightening to a guy.

Instead, take this time to assess your own life, this growing relationship and find out if this is really what you want as well. Don't be afraid to take some time to yourself and know that this is beneficial to him as you are leaving him some breathing space.

Do you really know him as well as you think or are you just eager to get married and get it over with? A long lasting and loving relationship takes work and takes time. Be prepared to invest in it if you really want to succeed. With love and patience you won't really have to work at making him commit. The realization will hit him one day and he'll see how vital you are to his life.

Show Him Your Love - The Right Way to Go About it

Are you so overflowing with emotions that you just can't wait to show him just how much you love him? Do you think that gushing and showing you desire to always be with him will thrill him? Have you always worn your emotions on your sleeve and the men didn't stick around as you had thought they would? As thrilling as falling in love can be, it is also a very tricky emotion. You have to be careful not to give too much of a good thing.

When it comes to love, many women fall hard and fast. Sometimes love can start growing the moment they spot a handsome face that gives off the slightest promise of warmth. Add a few charming lines, a nice smile and that love snowballs to mammoth proportions given the amount of time they've known this man.

For your sake as well as his, be ready to put a little time into your relationship. There really is no reason or benefit to rushing it. So instead of showing your undying adoration, take it down a notch. You can let him know that you enjoy his company simply by thanking him for the great evening you had. But don't be quick to ask when you'll see him again.

When conversation calls for it, tell him you admire his qualities, you appreciate the little things he does for you and show your respect for the things he enjoys doing. None of this needs to be in a gush of fanatical praise. Keep it real, be honest and let each event dictate the degree of emotion you can let out.

This is a slow process, but it will give the guy a chance to catch up to where you are emotionally. If you start telling him you love him, while he's still at the stage of just having a fun night out, you'll definitely scare him away. However, if you wait until he feels those same emotions well up inside, he'll be more apt to reciprocate.

Better yet, if you really want to be sure, wait until he tells you he loves you first. In the meantime show him your love in little, sure-footed increments.