Many guys out there can attest to the fact that when they are dumped by a girlfriend, they are completely devastated and immediately start to beg to be taken back. I can definitely attest to that, because when my girlfriend of one year dumped me, I just could not control my desire to start begging and pleading for forgiveness.
In retrospect, my behavior was rather appalling, but what I realized after reading a guide on the internet is that a simple psychological principle is the main factor behind how we react to a breakup. The principle stated "You Want What You Can't Have", which was definitely the case with me.
While the logic of that phrase was obvious to me, what was less obvious was the spin on it that people really don't want what they can have easily. And that's exactly what was happening in the case of my ex-girlfriend. Because I was bemoaning how much I missed her and wanted her back, her psychological being immediately saw that as an opportunity to turn down what was coming to her so easily.
Realizing that this principle was hard at work on both of us, I immediately changed my strategy and stopped making it so obvious that I wanted us to get back together. I stopped calling and behaved as if being dumped really wasn't a big deal.
When she realized that I seemed to move on without her, she instantly started reaching out to me. In other words, she started to think that I was moving out of her reach and she started to want what she seemingly couldn't have.
You should give it a try in your relationship. Stop looking so desperate and you'll see how quickly your ex-girlfriend will come crawling back to you!
In retrospect, my behavior was rather appalling, but what I realized after reading a guide on the internet is that a simple psychological principle is the main factor behind how we react to a breakup. The principle stated "You Want What You Can't Have", which was definitely the case with me.
While the logic of that phrase was obvious to me, what was less obvious was the spin on it that people really don't want what they can have easily. And that's exactly what was happening in the case of my ex-girlfriend. Because I was bemoaning how much I missed her and wanted her back, her psychological being immediately saw that as an opportunity to turn down what was coming to her so easily.
Realizing that this principle was hard at work on both of us, I immediately changed my strategy and stopped making it so obvious that I wanted us to get back together. I stopped calling and behaved as if being dumped really wasn't a big deal.
When she realized that I seemed to move on without her, she instantly started reaching out to me. In other words, she started to think that I was moving out of her reach and she started to want what she seemingly couldn't have.
You should give it a try in your relationship. Stop looking so desperate and you'll see how quickly your ex-girlfriend will come crawling back to you!
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