Have you ever given any real thought to what makes a guy fall in love? Do you wonder why you don't have the love in your life that you desire? Do you go out with guys who just disappear after a few weeks? Do you wonder what went wrong? Every relationship is unique, but there are some common relationship themes that you need to be aware of in order to attract the right guy and make him fall in love.
You've probably heard many times that men are attracted to confident women, but have you ever wondered why?
The answer may surprise you. A confident attitude communicates to a man that he won't have to do all the work if he's in a relationship with you. If you project an attitude of insecurity, a man's first thought is that he's going to have to work hard to counteract your insecurities. And he's not even sure he can succeed at such a task. You've heard the term "high maintenance" and an insecure woman is the emotional equivalent of high maintenance.
In addition to confidence, men look for women who are authentic. It is important to be yourself rather than portraying yourself as something you are not. Eventually the façade will crack and when it does, any attraction that existed will likely evaporate quickly.
Why is this so devastating to a relationship?
Because it erodes trust which is the foundation of any successful relationship. Men are quite used to women pretending in order to get their attention. Instead, stand out from the crowd, and make him fall in love at the same time, by being yourself.
Confidence and authenticity are just the beginning. You also need to practice good communication skills if you want to build a relationship that will last. Sometimes women are told that they shouldn't share their feelings with a man because it will scare him away. This is terrible advice. Suppressing your feelings, especially the negative ones, will only create resentment and anger. Men actually do want to know what you are thinking and feeling because that tells them what they need to do in order to keep you happy. One of the best rules of effective communication is to always assume the best of the other person. For instance, take the example of being late for a date. You can say one of the following:
• "You are always late. You are so inconsiderate. Why didn't you call me?"
• "When you are late, it makes me feel like you don't care about me. I was also worried about you since you didn't call. Next time please call if you are going to be late so that I don't worry."
The second approach works best for both of you because you acknowledge and communicate your feelings, and he learns what he needs to do to prevent misunderstandings in the future.
It's easy to stand out from other women when you are confident, authentic, and effective at communicating. Practice these effective strategies and you will have no problem making any guy fall in love.
You've probably heard many times that men are attracted to confident women, but have you ever wondered why?
The answer may surprise you. A confident attitude communicates to a man that he won't have to do all the work if he's in a relationship with you. If you project an attitude of insecurity, a man's first thought is that he's going to have to work hard to counteract your insecurities. And he's not even sure he can succeed at such a task. You've heard the term "high maintenance" and an insecure woman is the emotional equivalent of high maintenance.
In addition to confidence, men look for women who are authentic. It is important to be yourself rather than portraying yourself as something you are not. Eventually the façade will crack and when it does, any attraction that existed will likely evaporate quickly.
Why is this so devastating to a relationship?
Because it erodes trust which is the foundation of any successful relationship. Men are quite used to women pretending in order to get their attention. Instead, stand out from the crowd, and make him fall in love at the same time, by being yourself.
Confidence and authenticity are just the beginning. You also need to practice good communication skills if you want to build a relationship that will last. Sometimes women are told that they shouldn't share their feelings with a man because it will scare him away. This is terrible advice. Suppressing your feelings, especially the negative ones, will only create resentment and anger. Men actually do want to know what you are thinking and feeling because that tells them what they need to do in order to keep you happy. One of the best rules of effective communication is to always assume the best of the other person. For instance, take the example of being late for a date. You can say one of the following:
• "You are always late. You are so inconsiderate. Why didn't you call me?"
• "When you are late, it makes me feel like you don't care about me. I was also worried about you since you didn't call. Next time please call if you are going to be late so that I don't worry."
The second approach works best for both of you because you acknowledge and communicate your feelings, and he learns what he needs to do to prevent misunderstandings in the future.
It's easy to stand out from other women when you are confident, authentic, and effective at communicating. Practice these effective strategies and you will have no problem making any guy fall in love.
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