There are hundreds of marriage self-help books on "How to save your marriage" available to help couples stop divorce. Yet, the divorce rate seems to be on the uptrend. It is because the advices on those self-help books are bunk? No!
How to save your marriage can only be successfully achieved if you change your approach to handling your marriage problems.
Stop criticizing!
Every one of us is a critique. Do not verbally attack your spouse just because they do something you do not like. It is better if you tell them in a non-judgmental way. It will definitely make your life more pleasant.
Always rule out divorce!
Your marriage is on the rocks. Yes, you and your spouse discussed about divorce. Yet, it is something neither of you really want. If that is the case, banish talk about divorce in your conversations. If you consider divorce as not an option, stop even mentioning it. Do not make the mistake of using divorce as a threat. Divorce is more likely to become a reality if you bring up the subject often. It will be an option you might regret later.
No one is perfect - accept that your spouse is imperfect!
As newlyweds, ignoring all the annoying habits of your spouse was easy. Your spouse forgot to pick up their clothes, your spouse forgot to call when they are late or your partner forgot to fill the gas tank. Once upon a time, you can just close an eye. However, the irritation on such behavior starts to build up over the years. Remember, your spouse is not perfect. You may have some annoying habits too. So, the next time your spouse does something that irritates you, pause before you jump. Consider if those behaviors are really that serious. If they are not, let it go.
Always remember to respect your spouse!
Remember when you and your spouse first dated or during the early years of the marriage. You are polite to each other. You said "thank you" and "please" often. You and your spouse will politely and patiently resolve any disagreements. However, over the years, those actions are forgotten because we take our spouse for granted. For you to try and save your marriage, both of you must get back to that level of respect you had for each other.
Take time to learn and understand more about your spouse!
Your spouse is a unique individual. Take time to understand the way your spouse approach the marriage and the relationship. Keep an open mind. You may have been married for a long time. It does not mean you know everything about your spouse.
It does not have to be complicated when you are trying to figure out how to save your marriage. Relying on the free information available on the internet is not enough. Not all fundamentals are addressed in self-help books written by professional marriage counselors. Whatever you do, make sure you start with a good foundation when you are trying to save your marriage. Most importantly take action.
How to save your marriage can only be successfully achieved if you change your approach to handling your marriage problems.
Stop criticizing!
Every one of us is a critique. Do not verbally attack your spouse just because they do something you do not like. It is better if you tell them in a non-judgmental way. It will definitely make your life more pleasant.
Always rule out divorce!
Your marriage is on the rocks. Yes, you and your spouse discussed about divorce. Yet, it is something neither of you really want. If that is the case, banish talk about divorce in your conversations. If you consider divorce as not an option, stop even mentioning it. Do not make the mistake of using divorce as a threat. Divorce is more likely to become a reality if you bring up the subject often. It will be an option you might regret later.
No one is perfect - accept that your spouse is imperfect!
As newlyweds, ignoring all the annoying habits of your spouse was easy. Your spouse forgot to pick up their clothes, your spouse forgot to call when they are late or your partner forgot to fill the gas tank. Once upon a time, you can just close an eye. However, the irritation on such behavior starts to build up over the years. Remember, your spouse is not perfect. You may have some annoying habits too. So, the next time your spouse does something that irritates you, pause before you jump. Consider if those behaviors are really that serious. If they are not, let it go.
Always remember to respect your spouse!
Remember when you and your spouse first dated or during the early years of the marriage. You are polite to each other. You said "thank you" and "please" often. You and your spouse will politely and patiently resolve any disagreements. However, over the years, those actions are forgotten because we take our spouse for granted. For you to try and save your marriage, both of you must get back to that level of respect you had for each other.
Take time to learn and understand more about your spouse!
Your spouse is a unique individual. Take time to understand the way your spouse approach the marriage and the relationship. Keep an open mind. You may have been married for a long time. It does not mean you know everything about your spouse.
It does not have to be complicated when you are trying to figure out how to save your marriage. Relying on the free information available on the internet is not enough. Not all fundamentals are addressed in self-help books written by professional marriage counselors. Whatever you do, make sure you start with a good foundation when you are trying to save your marriage. Most importantly take action.
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